Pussy Fire — A Dark Feminine Awakening of Erotic Enlivenment

Discover the sensual, sexual, & erotic power of your womanly body, heart, & fire.

3-months rooted in innocence, somatic safety, shadow work, & pleasure + erotic dance & 6 dark feminine archetypes.

 

Liberate yourself through the unapologetic embodiment of your sexual energy, sensuality, and dark feminine fire so that you can have more pleasure, joy, and passion every single day. 


The dark feminine and our erotic enlivenment is an awakening to a sensual, juicy, raw, vibrant, pleasure-based relationship with ourselves, and it’s becoming unapologetic in what we think, feel, want, and need. 


Step into the flames and dismantle how you think you should embody your fire, sexuality, feminine energy, and yourself as a woman, while being teased into the pleasure, joy, and liberation of it all so that you can discover what it feels like to authentically embody all of it.


The dark feminine and the enlivenment of our erotic power is not about anybody else, it’s about us being unapologetic and confident in our bodies, our truth, our ferocity, and in living as enlivened and turned on to life as possible


Erotic enlivenment is to be highly sensitized to life and our bodies, and it’s our ability to bask in pleasure and our sensuality. It’s deep reverence for our pussy and pelvis beneath the sexualization and objectification of her. It’s the essence of our sexual energy expanded into a full-body, full-being experience that is far beyond the genitals or sex. It’s our lust to live and taste every ounce of life and to relish in our bodies.


The dark feminine is the fire and ferocity that protects all of this – our erotic power, boundaries, passion, instincts, and worth.


This pilgrimage is the invocation of a wild love affair with our hearts and bodies, and it’s discovering the taboo magic of our erotic intelligence.

Whether you have had a dark feminine awakening and are struggling to embody and integrate it, or you want one — this space is for you.

When I drop into the essence of this dark feminine container, I feel the hearts and longing of many women who are fighting the same current, but are in different veins. You may have been hit with a dark feminine awakening and are either scared, haven’t found your footing, or caught your breath, or you are deeply longing for the fire, and/or know that you really fucking need it.



You may feel the rage bubbling, or the pulsation of your sexual energy, but don’t quite know how to land it in your body, heart, being, or life.

You may be in a place of deep betrayal, manipulation, and wounding that has strayed you away from your ferocity and instincts, and you are grieving the process of self-forgiveness and self-abandonment, coming home to yourself.


Or, your sexuality either feels broken, turned off, and damaged beyond return, or it's suppressed down under shame and fear, but it’s starting to simmer and spill over the edges, unable and unwilling to be contained any longer.

In all honesty, you probably feel an odd contradictory mixture of the above. ​

This cauldron is for all of you. It’s the same wound expressing itself differently symptomatically, but the medicine is the same.

The erotic is the healing salve.

The fire and strength of the dark feminine create the needed container, boundaries, and protection for all of this to unfurl. It's the dark feminine that gives us the fire and strength to claim our sexual truth, our sexual sovereignty, and to fight for, claim, drink up, and relish in this one precious life and body for all that it’s worth.



Step into the flames to untangle any sexual shame, sexual suppression, and sexual grief, while blossoming beyond your timidness to embody your sensuality, voice, self-expression, and to trust your anger and the dark feminine fire of what you think, feel, want, and need.


This is a journey of becoming unapologetic in our dark feminine self-expression, taking up space, choosing ourselves, and at times rubbing people the wrong way. Though this container will tap into the vast landscape of woman and the feminine, there will be emphasis on the dark feminine — the underbelly of the feminine that channels the erotic, our holy rage, our tantric magic, and our sensuality.


For those who answer the call, you will dance with the dark feminine archetypes of the Huntress, Bitch, Mad Woman, Whore, Seductress, and the Witch.

This container midwives an emotional, cognitive, and somatic journey, unraveling your feminine psyche, female body, and awakening your erotic innocence and dark feminine power that is your protector of all that you love and all that you are. It’s a journey of self-love, self-discovery, and devotion to yourself, and it’s granting yourself full permission to unleash all that has been hushed and demonized in women and the feminine.

This is a dark feminine reclamation of pleasure, joy, and power that the patriarchy does not want us to have because the patriarchy knows it will liberate us beyond control, self-doubt, and shame.


This journey is about the embodiment of our sexual and erotic energy, and though this journey is not about sex itself, we cannot tap into the richest or most authentic essence of our sexuality without doing this work. It’s the sexualization and objectification of women, and our personal sexual wounding that cuts us off from our erotic innocence and power. Through this journey, we will come into a deep somatic relationship with our pussy and our pelvis, and the pleasure of our bodies, but nothing about this course is rooted in self-touch of the genitals or acts of sex in any way, it’s rooted in a deep relationship with the entirety of our bodies as an erogenous zone, while burning the stories of sexualization to the ground.


This container is for anybody who senses something untapped that they are hungry for — whether that be in the dark feminine, their sexuality, sensuality, eroticism, everyday pleasure, or joy. 

This space is for women who simply want to feel more alive and feel something in them light up when they hear the term erotic enlivenment, or the dark feminine. 


This space is for women who want to heal their relationship with their pussy, or have a deeper relationship with her. 

It’s for women who want to feel more comfortable in their fire, in their assertion, anger, and in taking up space. 


It’s for women who want to feel more comfortable in their bodies, in their sensuality, and in embodying their sexual energy in their everyday lives beyond engagement with others or in acts of sex.



It’s for women who can feel themselves holding back in their sensuality, afraid to fully let go and be seen however those around will perceive it. 


Maybe you compartmentalize this energy. 

Maybe you hate your body and struggle with body image, beauty, and food. 


Maybe you are going through a major transition in your life around a relationship, your sexual identity, perimenopause, motherhood, or postpartum. 


Maybe you are struggling with sisterhood wounding around this energy, slut shaming, heart break, or your relationship with men. 


Maybe you feel disconnected from this energy, or your pussy herself, and maybe you feel consumed by the shadows of all of this.

Sexuality has become a weapon used against women’s relationship with themselves and their bodies, and the dark feminine is our medicine of reclamation.



There is so much pressure to embody ourselves as women in a certain way or to embody our sexuality in a certain way, paired with collective misogyny, gender based violence, madonna-whore contradictions, hierarchy, and oppression. There is so much contradictory shaming and villianization of the Huntress, Bitch, Mad Woman, Whore, Seductress, and Witch. Because of this, we are all severed from this energy or are wounded in some way or another. It’s inescapable.


The dark feminine teaches us to realize the power of our ferocity and fire, and to reclaim our sexual energy, sensuality, pleasure, and eroticism as our own. 

Awakening our dark feminine energy enables us to heighten the sensitivity of our entire body, to become deeply attuned to pleasure, to discover the intelligence of our bodies, and to come home to our instincts that live beneath collective programming so that we can have the joy of being deeply in love with every ounce of ourselves, our lives, and our bodies, while salivating at every breath, and every moment we are granted.


Women can end up so shut down from their experiences and the shameful, degrading, and minimizing messages they are bombarded with around their sexuality, sensuality, femininity, power, bigness, grandness, needs, wants, and worth that it makes perfect sense why we feel the ways we do – whether we hate our bodies, have no libido, are ashamed of the libido we do have, whether we want nothing to do with sex or our pussy, or want things we don’t want to want, or don’t want to want things that we do want, or we want to show up in our partnerships differently, or we want to show up sexually or as a woman differently. 


Regardless of the details, we are left longing to feel and be differently than we are, and we are all left feeling like something is faulty or wrong with us, but what if nothing was?


The dark feminine is what lifts the veils from the messages that gaslight our power and experiences as women, and it protects us from the stories, structures, systems, and people that destabilize us and distract us from the power simmering in our bones, hearts, and female form.


The biggest block in embodying our erotic innocence and power as women is often our idea of what we are supposed to be, how we should feel, and how our experience should be — and this blinds us from something that is much more powerful than what we are grasping for, but we can’t see it because we are looking in all the wrong places. I am beckoning you to the light of the dark.

Step into these dark feminine flames and come home to the woman who has been waiting for you.


This journey is a map of unveiling, embodiment, enlivenment, and power. It’s a map of luminosity, and once we taste what we have been starved of – nothing can stop us. 


Whether you feel a sense of longing, denying, or forcing around this energy within you, this space is for you.


Step into these flames and claim your dark feminine power as a woman — for you, and all women.

What this dark feminine reclamation entails —

We will spend three months rooted in somatic therapy, shadow work, pleasure, and embodiment, and we will traverse six dark feminine archetypes that will support our capacity to hold and embody what we uncover.

Over five spirals or modules, we will come into deep attunement to our fire, and our hearts and pussy. We will tap the roots to unveil and rewrite our story, summoning the dark feminine in her erotic power and innocence, and this story will be rewritten in our bodies — in how we live and feel and move — not just in our minds or spirits.

There are five spirals, and the first three spirals are all rooted in shadow work and somatic safety, revealing what is severing us from a full, unapologetic embodiment of our dark feminine fire, and from here, a deeper level of juiciness begins. We meet pleasure. We meet the shameless women, and we dive deep into our desire, lust, and longing. We dive deep into joy and our erotic intelligence. We untangle our sexuality from the erotic, and we untangle our sexuality from our sensuality and pleasure. Then, our dark feminine Queen receives her coronation. We meet the Huntress, Bitch, Mad Woman, Whore, Seductress, and Witch and the pussy fire flames of our goddess give rights are lit.


This experience contains two aspects that harmonize and weave together — there is the shadow work of the psyche, emotions, and cognitive self, and there is a somatic aspect to integrate this all into our bodies and physiology, expanding our capacity to embody the dark feminine.

We will deeply attune to our bodies through somatic awareness, and we will bring in movement, breath, sound, and touch through specific practices to integrate what is uncovered and what we are summoning. We will unveil our relationship with power, pleasure, and joy. We will somatically track our patterns, restrictions, and limitations in our nervous system and bring in full-body, full-being pleasure, heightening our sensitivity to a level we have not yet known. This journey is rooted in unveiling what we unconsciously have come to believe about being a woman, and what we have unconsciously denied ourselves as women — especially in our erotic, sensual, and dark feminine nature. It’s also rooted in awakening the sensitivity of our whole bodies and beings to pleasure.

We begin this journey by nurturing a deep sense of safety in our bodies, feminine energy, female form, and our hearts, and then we meet the dark feminine archetypes of the Huntress, Bitch, Mad Woman, Whore, Seductress and Witch.

Without a deep sense of somatic safety, and without a deep nurturing of our sensual and erotic innocence, we will not have the capacity to embody the dark feminine without her shadows thrashing.

Every step of the way will be supported with somatic practices to meet ourselves where we are as we learn to trust the unfolding of our unique process, wisdom, and intelligence of our beings and bodies. This is a journey of deep listening and building trust between ourselves and our bodies.

There will be rich written content and prompts designed to deepen your conscious awareness and embodiment practices to ground it into your being. The dynamics of working between your psyche and body will deepen the power of one another and support both ends of the transformation to sustainably land and last.


The written content has been carefully crafted to mine the facets of your feminine psyche and your experience as a woman, illuminating and awakening the power available that you are subconsciously not claiming or don’t know how to claim. The format, pace, and embodiment practices have been carefully designed to land what you discover in your body so that what you uncover is not lost as a momentary high of revelation.

We can also do all the self-healing and shadow work we want, but if pleasure and our bodies aren’t at the center, our lives can’t become centered around the embodied experience of pleasure, enlivenment, and joy.

Everyone has the option to do this journey on their own or to include six one-on-one sessions that will be scheduled at specific transitions throughout the journey (more details below).

We can have all the epiphanies we want, but if they don’t land in our bodies, nothing in our lives or lived experience changes.

If you so choose, there is a flower essence set that goes with this experience that I cannot recommend enough. The only reason it is not included is because of the complications and variations of international shipping, with timing, packaging, pricing, etc. (I am in the U.S.), and my instincts tell me to let you choose whether you want to bring this in or not. Once you register, you will receive a coupon code in the welcome email for $25 off.

I will say they are one more channel of activation, one more channel of healing, and one more channel of awakening that add a tremendous amount of power to this journey. To physically ingest these energies is a potent addition, and the flowers are where this offering came from. I sat with red snap dragon years ago, Kali Ma appeared and said Pussy Fire — she spoke to erotic power, holy rage, and passion. This was the beginning of this download that has continually evolved, grown, and deepened in my personal journey, in my work, and I don’t imagine it stops here. The world is beckoning more women to step into this fire and to stand their ground for what has been hushed within them, and for what has been hushed in all women.

There is a vagina-brain connection that physiologically deeply affects our mental health and wellbeing.

Deepening our relationship with our sensuality, pussy, and full-body, full-being pleasure is powerful (and really flipping joyful).

There is an aspect of awakening our pussy that awakens our life force and our spirit. There is a lot of conditioning, and a lot of life experience that has tainted, shamed, wounded, repressed, numbed, and cut this energy off, and our relationship to this part of our body off. There is a lot of conditioning that has sexualized everything, and created illusions that are not in our best interest regarding what it means and looks like to embrace this energy and this part of our body.


We’ve been subliminally taught to objectify our own bodies and sexuality and to be ashamed of them at the same time. We’ve been taught too long to be desired more than we desire pleasure itself. We’ve been taught to dim our light, hush our voices, and dismiss our boundaries.  We’ve been conditioned to burn ourselves out, and the world in its entirety has been conditioned to see the feminine power of the heart and pussy as weak or irrelevant so we don’t realize to claim the force that is at our fingertips and the embers that are crackling between our legs.

When it comes to our sexuality, every woman in varying degrees carries shame regarding both ends of the spectrum — the wild, primal, erotic nature of deep desire, and the shutdown, wounded side where there may be no sense of safety, libido, or ability to let go or tap into this energy at all.

This fire is tended for all the wounds of the feminine, and all the wounds of woman to be transmuted into liberation.

This container has been tended to activate more joy, vibrancy, happiness, vulnerability, creativity, pleasure, passion, self-love, body love, fun, play, and simply more energy and connection in our day-to-day lives.  

It also being tended to acknowledge or transmute the heaviness and density of the heart, fatigue, burnout, fear, hypervigilance, OCD-like behavior, dullness, feeling stuck, flat, and unable to accomplish, pursue, and manifest our desires, or breakthrough our past.
 

This space is tended for those who know deep in their bones there is more. It’s for those who feel the dark feminine summoning them within. It’s for anyone who feels that tug in their heart, that yes in their belly, and the embers of healing crackling in their pussy.

I invite you to step into the flames.


I do not summon you with false promises of instantaneous happiness, abundance, or joy, or that old stories or new layers will never arise again.

I do not summon you with the false promise that it won’t be hard or painful to shed these layers. I don’t summon you with the false promise of never feeling a heavy heart or lost again. I do not summon you with the false promises of enlightenment or perfection. I do not summon you with the false promise to provide you with all the answers you are longing for because the answers are deep within you and will show themselves in right timing.

I summon you to the rawness of life.

I summon you to the rawness of beauty, the rawness of your soul, and the freedom and liberation that comes by surrendering to and embracing all of it. May we light the flame of the Goddess and set the parts of ourselves free we didn’t even know were hiding.

May we light the pussy fire flames of the dark feminine that are our Goddess-given right.

Who this is not for —

This is not a sexual trauma healing course, and nor are the 1:1 sessions. You may have experienced sexual trauma, and this journey will surely bring things up, but it’s expected that you have done work around this elsewhere with appropriate professionals, and that you are coming into this well-resourced. I do not want to falsely summon anyone in over their heads. This journey is trauma-informed in the content created and the format that grounds it, but it’s not treating trauma.

If you read the term pussy fire and your insides squirm, you feel contraction, or are triggered, but want to want to do this — don’t do it. Don’t push yourself. Amidst sexual wounding in particular, we can want to heal so badly that we can abandon the no of our beings and bodies, and the most powerful thing we can do is respect this. If you’re scared but this excites you, and it invokes an essence of enlivenment — that’s different. It’s okay to be nervous.

If you don’t feel ready, or your body doesn’t feel ready to go here, start with Shapeshifting the Goddess. This is what got me to a place where I was ready to go here and hold this space. 1:1 sessions are also coming soon, outside of being tied to a course, and are incredibly helpful for grounding into a sense of safety in your body that will build your capacity to potentially feel a yes for this in the future.

If you are non-binary or Queer and are wondering if this container is right for you — I welcome you full-heartedly. A lot of spaces that speak to women’s empowerment and feminine energy can be rooted in cisgender, heterosexual frameworks. It’s really important to me to be conscious of this, I don’t believe there is any one way, right way, or wrong way to embody ourselves as a woman, female being, or to embody our feminine energy, and this course is about discovering what is authentic to you. During the third spiral, we dive into this deeply, diving into the realms of men, women, feminine, masculine, and our gender and sexual identity. I believe it’s fluid and unique to each and every one of us. Having said this, this journey does speak heavily to your identity as a woman and to the female body. We will somatically be relating to our pussy, female pelvis, and physical female form. I also often speak to the feminine energy traversed as ‘her’ parts, or I sometimes refers to our pussy or womb as her. I say this because if that feels bypassing, or like something that doesn’t land for you, I want you to know that beforehand.

My hope is to be as transparent as possible, so that you have the information you need to decide what feels right for you. I am a cisgendered woman, with she/her pronouns, and what I offer comes from my experience as a woman, and I’ve done a lot of work to educate myself to be aware of the experience of woman beyond my own, and to hold space for that. I am always more than happy to recommend other courses I know of that are centered in non-binary, queer realms if that feels more supportive to you. Feel free to reach out!

FAQ’s

How will I receive all the content?

All you need is an email address. No social media, no fancy platforms or apps to download or register through. You’ll receive all the content via email, including any downloadable audio or video support.

What if I’m not ready to start immediately?

You will receive a welcome email and opening content upon registering. From here, there is a link you will click to START the series of content. It’s created this way in case you have ordered the flower essences and want to wait for their arrival or if you are doing the VIP option, so that you can schedule your first session and align everything from there.

What if I get behind?

You are receiving everything via email, so you can ultimately go at your own pace, but I strongly encourage you to make the space and time to not lose momentum. This is part of what will support you to thrive. Know this journey is very consciously designed in pace to not overwhelm you and to support you to go slow and steady with the spaciousness for what you uncover to land and the steadiness to not lose momentum. You will dance back and forth between waves of content that will include journal prompts and then waves of integrations that are rooted in somatic practices that will naturally merge into your daily life.

How much time do I need to spend a day?

Plan to spend, on average, 20-30 minutes a day. Some days you’ll be taking in written content and freewriting, some days you’ll be listening to an audio meditation, and some days you’ll be doing somatic practices. How your time is spent will be varied, and it will ebb and flow. It’s designed to feel luscious and nourishing, and it’s paced very intentionally. Once you begin, you will get a more detailed outline to plan around if that is helpful for you.

Will I have forever access?

Yes! All content is sent via email so you can save it and go through the spiral again, and again. You can even click the “start button” in the welcome email to trigger the series to send again.

Are the Flower Essences included?

The Flower Essence Set is sold separately, and the course can be done without. It’s a personal choice. I highly recommend getting them. The blends actually came before the course and awoke this whole template within me. Pussy fire was birthed from the flowers. The essences are the physical manifestation of this medicine. Each bottle emanates the medicine invoked and physically ingesting it is powerful. The set is sold separately, primarily to ease the complication of international shipping. I cannot recommend them enough, and if it’s not in alignment for whatever reason, that is just fine. The journey itself will still be plenty powerful.


What are flower essences, and should anyone not take them?

Flower Essences are vibrational medicine in a tincture-like form you ingest orally that affect your subtle energy body, emotional body, and spirit. They are made with fresh spring water infused with the vibrational imprint of fresh blooms under the sun or moon. They are incredibly safe to take and gentle on the earth to make. There are no contraindications, meaning they are safe during pregnancy and while breastfeeding, and in combination with other medications. You take 1-7 single drops at a time in water or underneath your tongue. They’re typically preserved in brandy, though vegetable glycerine is available upon request


What is the refund policy?

There is a no-refund policy because you get access to download foundational aspects of the content right away.

What if I have another question?

If you have any remaining questions, email Abby at info@abbymchale.com.

With love,

Abby & the Marigold Women